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Welcome to the Wills Family History & Genealogy site.  You have come to a very personal place filled with memory, storytelling, fact, conjecture and local history.  It is about my mother’s family, the Wills Family and individual’s struggles as immigrants and first and second generation Americans. This is a place for genealogy and sharing Wills family tree, stories passed from fathers to daughters and mothers to sons.  Much is from family lore and the personal memories of my mother, my aunts and my uncles.  A little historical background about the  19th and early 20th century life in upstate New York’s industrial gateway will help to put stories in perspective.

It covers a time of serious religious intolerance between Protestant and Catholic groups – and many other groups as well.  It was a time of  class struggles, labor conflicts, mass immigration, cultural adaptation, rapid change, and manifest destiny.  It was a time of several myths -especially the one that told immigrants they could make it to the top if they if they had the will and determination.  This myth, held tightly by so many never took into consideration the advantages being the recipient of generational wealth.  The heirs of established landowners, the benefits of higher education at elite institutions and the social connections it offered, the opportunity to try and fail but still feed yourself were all overlooked when a wealthy man told the poor man to “pull yourself up by the bootstrap”.  The first and second generation of the Wills family struggled during the Gilded Age  with its industrial robber barons, the Panic of 1893.  the Great War,  Then came the Roaring 20s, the  presence of the KKK in upstate communities, and Prohibition – all followed by the Great Depression of 1929-1939.  All these events and movements affected the Wills family in many ways we can never fully comprehend today in the 21st century. 

John Albert Wills and Elizabeth Bissonnette, are the focus couple in this Wills Family story.  Their nine children and many grandchildren will also be included when I have stories or research that can bring them to life.  As this site and the family story develops in pages and posts, John A. Wills’ parents, aunts and uncles in Cornwall,  brothers and sisters in America will be included.  Elizabeth Bissonnette’s family will be explored elsewhere in a site devoted to the Franco-American side of her  family.  

Previously, I’ve blogged about my Wills family on  FrancoamericanGravy.blogspot.com .  Unfortunately, the posts are scattered throughout the blog which is more about the Franco-American branch of my family.  During the years I’ve written and learned about my Franco-American family, I also  learned more about my Wills family, and its place in family history.  This is my attempt to interweave memories of the Wills family, documented facts and American history and put them in one place. 

Beginnings

When you visit the graves of John Albert Wills, Elizabeth Bissonnette Wills and Elizabeth Frances Wills – they lie together – you will not notice the brickwall under your feet because it is under the ground.

It’s true. In the Catholic cemetery, a brickwall lies deep in the ground separating the coffins of John A. Wills and his wife, Libby Bissonnette. The Catholic church, following the custom of the times, would not allow the body of a Protestant to be buried in its sanctified ground.  When John A. Wills, a Protestant who never converted to Catholicism died, his children wished to bury him alongside his wife, Libby and their daughter, Elizabeth Frances Wills.   A work around was found.  The solution, the vicar told the family, was to build a brick wall around John Albert Will’s coffin.  His earthly remains and the little plot would then be separated from the good Catholics who were going to heaven – and his wife.   John A. Wills was ostracized and estranged in his death as he was in his life.  He was walled off from his wife.  His name was never entered into the Catholic church register of the interred in St. Joseph’s Catholic Cemetery in Waterford, NY  because for the Catholic church, John Albert Wills body was not even there.  This was the sad ending of John “Jack” Albert Wills and his wife, Elizabeth “Libby” Bissonnette.

This was the  beginning: The story of John and Libby, my Grandparents

On August 18th, 1903, John A. Wills, a bachelor from a devout Methodist family married  Marie Elisabeth “Libby” Bissonnette, a young woman from a Franco-American and Roman Catholic family in St Joseph’s  Catholic Church, Cohoes, New York, USA.

The bride and groom were first generation Americans.  His parents were born in Cornwall, her parents were born in Quebec, Canada.  Though John  never converted to Catholicism,  to marry Libby he agreed to raise any child of the union as Roman Catholic.  He and Libby did so with one exception – his eldest son and namesake.

John A. Wills was disowned by his parents for the act of marrying a Catholic.  So too, was his older brother, William Henry Wills, and for the same reason.  The painful splintering of father and sons ended in estrangement and personal tragedy.  Eventually, John A. Wills descended into chronic alcoholism and died of acute alcoholic intoxication. Libby was ravaged by thyroid disease before the wide availability of thyroxine hormone.  The disease eventually killed her.

Personal tragedy has its way of seeping through generations.  For John and Libby Wills, their tragedy did not end  with their deaths.  It carried into the next generation with poverty, poor access to education and opportunity, shame, alcoholic disease, poverty and estrangement.

When I was quite young, I listened to my mother and her sister, Etta, argue about their parents the way many adult children do.  It wasn’t until I was older that I began thinking about why and how the Wills family’s story reflected part of America at the beginning of the twentieth century.  My great grandparents were working class immigrants; their children were first generation Americans.  Some immigrants had great success stories, others did not.  Some first generation Americans had great success, others did not.  Why the differences? What made success and what made tragedy? 

Here is the hypothesis: my grandfather, John A Wills (1873-1937),  descended into alcoholic disease, poverty, and despair due to personal reasons – shame, weakness and the estrangement of his birth family.  Also playing a part were social economic causes, sharp class distinctions, and  discrimination.  However, religious intolerance, obstinacy in religious beliefs and lack of family support may have had a bigger role.  Then, when it looked liked things couldn’t get worse, the final breaking point, The Great Depression came bearing down upon the family.  

As I write, in the third decade of the  twenty first century,  Americans are still debating race, class, social injustice, sexism, identity and religious intolerance of one kind or another.   Religious institutions were the power players that created the community norms of the 19th and early 20th century.   Through their teachings and customs, Catholic and Protestant institutions instilled children and adults parishioners with religious bias, fear of persons with different religious beliefs and religious intolerance.  It remains present with us today, most prominently in racism, sexism and LGBT discrimination. 

I  hope to provide background about social issues in 19th & 20 century America such as religious bigotry and intolerance in America, social class and struggles of the immigrant working class, effects of the Great Depression, and cultural adaptation that will help put Wills Family History in context.  Additionally, I would like to explore family issues, disinheritance, health and nutrition, death and disease, personal disintegration as well as adaptation, rebirth and resiliency that family members used to coped or not cope.  It was never clear how the Wills family got through the decade (1929-1939).  The Great Depression provided the final blow; the parents died, daughters married and sons joined the CCCs, the US Army and Marines.  With one exception, Elizabeth Frances (1913-1937), the children survived.

Purpose

Purpose, Themes and Conflicts

“Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” Leo Tolstoy’s opening of Anna Karenina.

Universal themes are embedded in all families.  When a couple unites, starts a family, grows, and ages, conflicts develop.  How conflicts manifest themselves and become resolved or unresolved are unique in each family.  I want to explore universal family themes and how they were uniquely manifested in the Wills family.  In the post section of this site, I’ll try to answer my own questions about individuals and ancestors who struggled with the conflicts that ensued and how they tried to resolve them one hundred years ago.

Here are some of the  universal themes that broadly affected the Wills Family:

Independence and self-sustaining versus dependency as manifested in leaving home & homeland, emigration, family cohesiveness versus separation.

Social class in 19th century America, working class poverty, labor, economics.

Immigration and cultural adaptation in 19th and 20th century America.

Religious zealotry and religious intolerance manifested in a Protestant- Roman Catholic tension pervasive in 19th and early 20th centuries in USA.  The single-mindedness of adults caught in religious frameworks established in religious orthodoxy and the bible.

And here are the unique conflicts that greatly affected individuals in the Wills family:

Disinheritance, abandonment, detachment, social isolation versus engagement

Alcohol Addiction

Depression, Loss of self-identity, loss of purpose

Loss of family through death and disinheritance

Family Disintegration, children of alcoholics,

and there is more but this list is already more than this writer can hope to think about.

Blog

The Significance of Methodism for Cornish Immigrants to America and the Meaning of Intolerance to Me

Before they left the shores of England, John Albert Berriman Wills (J.A.B. Wills) and Annie Reed were married in Truro, Cornwall, England. The date was  August 14th, 1866 and the church was St. George’s Anglican.  John Albert was 23 years old, Annie was probably 30 years old.  Although both John and Annie came from strong Methodist …

Assessing the Impact of Disinheritance

Disinheritance often results in years of intrapersonal conflict, shame, guilt, worthlessness, overcompensation and decompression.  Sometimes it leads to an emptiness that leads to dependency and chronic alcohol disease.  Sometimes it may lead to rebirth and freedom. I think the latter is less often the case. Recently, two articles appeared in the New York Times, and …

The story of Iron Mining and Moriah from “Locks To Lakes”

Locks to Lakes presents an audio tour of mining in Moriah and Crown Point in poetry and prose: The Story of Iron in Crown Point & Moriah.  Don’t bypass the audio narrations in each episode  of the tour.  The narration is fascinating and illuminate how the families and descendants of J.A.B. Wills and Elystra Berriman …

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